OCD and Identity

by stuart miles freedigitalphotos.net

This post first appeared in June 2013……..

I’ve previously written about some of the factors involved in recovery avoidance in OCD. Often those with the disorder are fearful of giving up rituals they believe keep them and their loved ones “safe.” Even though people with OCD usually realize their compulsions do not make sense, the terror that comes with losing what they perceive as control over their lives can be so real that they choose not to engage in exposure and response prevention therapy. They are afraid of getting better, of living a life without the “safety net” of OCD.

My friend Jackie over at Lights All Around posted about what she calls OCD Stockholm Syndrome, where hostages (those with OCD) side with their captors/abusers (OCD). While I’d known people with OCD might find it hard to leave their disorder behind, it had never occurred to me that they might not want to rid themselves of this horrible disorder. To me it is so counter-intuitive that I never considered it. Why would anyone want to live with an illness that robs them of everything they hold dear?

It’s hard for me to comprehend, but then again, I don’t have OCD.

Maybe because living with OCD is the only life some people have known, it might feel, in a way, comfortable. It is like family (though a dysfunctional one, at best). No matter how much our family might annoy us, and no matter how much we might even despise some of our family members, we still love them and want them around. Is this same type of love/hate relationship common with OCD?

Also, there is no question we are all shaped and influenced by many factors in our lives, including our illnesses. Do those with OCD believe they won’t be their real selves if their OCD is under control? For those who are able to see obsessive-compulsive disorder as separate from themselves, I wouldn’t think this would be an issue. But maybe it is. Maybe those with OCD believe not having their disorder as an integral part of their lives might change their true identity. To complicate matters more, it might be difficult for those who are suffering to even know what they believe. Are their thoughts their own or is it their OCD talking?

In my son’s case, getting treatment for the disorder is what allowed the real Dan to emerge. I have never heard from anyone with obsessive-compulsive disorder who felt their true self had been compromised after ridding themselves of OCD. Indeed, it is just the opposite. With OCD on the back burner, they were finally free to be themselves.

 

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4 Responses to OCD and Identity

  1. g3ness says:

    OCD is about losing control over the thought of losing control. It’s like … an addiction to one thought. And when you do it the thought goes replacing it with immense satisfaction. Imagine a sense of withdrawal from not getting that thought …

    • Thanks for sharing. As I’m sure you know, the problem is that “immense satisfaction” never lasts and then requires more and more compulsions to feel better. The vicious cycle of OCD! Thanks again for your comment and I hope to hear from you again!

  2. Lauren says:

    urghhh… I have this. rumination is such a killer… the need to “solve” the scary-seeming questions in my head is just so strong

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